(2/2)The more androgynous i am the more comfortable i feel. I dont know if this is just me being a non-feminine lady or a non binary person. I never really felt like a girl other than being told i was one and had to act as such, and i would be totally comfortable as something boyish or agendered. and i feel really conflicted for already having so many invisible identities and i dont want to identify as nonbinary until i know for sure.
The thing is, there’s basically no way to know for sure. You’re nonbinary if you feel like you are, and/or you feel it would be useful to identify that way.
The experience you’re describing to me sounds like it could fall into either category. So, do you feel you’re better off being an unconventional woman or a nonbinary person?
Like, it’s okay to feel ‘meh’ about the thing, and if you do agender may be a useful term for you, or perhaps cis-by-default
I feel like you will be able to reach an accommodation with people in your life
Everything I’ve seen written by people who actually have learning disabilities (and my experience with my own) tells me that while somebody may need extra accommodations for learning your pronouns, it’s very possible.
Lots of people without learning disabilities are running around crying #ableism, but most of what I’ve seen is simply poorly-hidden transphobia + the typical bullshit you get about having words that you like.
So I would talk to your brother and your mom about the thing, and see if it’s possible / what they need to make this happen for you.
Nick is both a goddess and a wizard and all praises for the theme go directly to them
I hated it with a burning passion at first but I have to admit it’s growing on me.
It’s kind of a diminutive though so I wouldn’t advise applying it as a blanket term.
Well, this blog sort of started out as an educational blog, and for a while after I took it over from the previous mods I got so few questions that it was a answer-every-ask-I-get-in-great-detail blog
My current position is that this is above all a safe space for nonbinary folks, and a place to ask me stuff so you don’t go around pestering other nonbinary folks who have not volunteered for education and I certainly give out a ton of information.
I am perfectly fine if binary people and/or cis people want to come here to learn things or ask questions provided shit is done respectfully. You are welcome here so long as you are respectful of the space and while I can no longer get to every question in the inbox, your question has just as fair a chance of being answered as anybody else’s.
Short answer: Only if you do. I don’t think there’s any amount of self-examination that is going to be “too much” and hey, if you re-examine yourself and decide that you’re actually a guy that’s perfectly fine.
Long answer: My personal religious and spiritual beliefs definitely fall in the “weird” or at least “very unusual” category, but I can tell you what I know
Dreams are the subjective experience of your brain cells running maintenance while you sleep. While you’re unconscious your cells run around consolidating memories and doing repair and making sure things are functioning and what’s going on inside your head is largely not reflective of the outside world (unlike when you’re awake, and receiving inputs from the outside world which get translated and processed by your brain). Upon waking, your brain basically scrambles to form a coherent narrative from all the stimulation it’s been getting while you slept, and that’s what you perceive as a dream.
Whether or not they “mean” anything is up to you. Lots of the modern ideas about dream analysis and stuff in my culture is irrevocably tainted by Freud, who was very creepy and very wrong and very bad at research.
But like, the case can be made that what you read into that weird pattern of stimulation is tied to your wishes and thoughts and things that are deeply you, or something. So make your own judgements.
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I am not familiar
If I had to sketch it out on the spot I’d think it’d be something like dan/dan/dans/danself
Does that sound right/acceptable to you?
Get a spray bottle, douse them with water every time they fuck up
Trans is an umbrella term for people who do not identify as the gender they were handed at birth
So if you feel that (which you’ve said you do) you get access to the word trans
If you have a gender experience that stands outside of a singular, binary gender then you also get access to the terms nonbinary and genderqueer
So yes, your experience “counts”, and you can use these words if you want to
I totally do not but off the top of my head
Yes. I have encountered confusion and horror although because I’m not out to my doctors I catch way more shit for being mentally ill / having chronic pain.
The good news is you can totally be both! I don’t know if that’s helpful to you. The sometimes-one-thing-sometimes-another is an experience that I would describe as genderfluid, and matches my experience of genderfluidity, but if demigirl also feels right you get to use that word too.
Believe me when I say, from the very bottom of my heart
Go fuck yourself and while you’re at it refrain from putting tone policing bullshit in my inbox ever again
I give neither mercy nor kindness to bigots, and bigotry is not a difference of “opinion”
1) You can choose a pronoun set(s) that appeal to you aesthetically, or feel comfy, or you feel accurately represent some portion of your identity, or anything really. I recommend trying them on for size, and know that you can use multiple sets, or switch sets.
2a) Get better friends
2b) In the event that 2a is not possible/desirable for you, prepare yourself to spend the next six months to a year beating them over the head with your identity and the fact that it’s real and true and needs to be respected. Unfortunately there is basically no easy or pleasant way to come out to bigots. I wish you luck.