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jobhaver:

Im sure most of my followers on here are at least peripherally aware of a page I help moderate called transhousingnetwork because I reblog posts from there often.

It is a page where trans people who are in need of shelter (most often temporary, emergency shelter) but who are unable to or feel unsafe getting it elsewhere. The way this page works is by way of people who are willing to read, signal boost and respond to “need couch’ posts and hopefully submit “have couch” posts advertising available space.

Demand for emergency shelter for trans people is especially high in all major metro areas but especially those in California (especially the Bay Area and Los Angeles) and the Pacific Northwest (especially Portland, Seattle, and Olympia) which tend to be major centers of refuge for a lot of trans people.

I’m making this post to spread awareness of the blog transhousingnetwork and especially to encourage anyone residing in one of those major metro centers on the west coast to signal boost or respond to some of the recent posts up on there and to submit “have couch” posts if you are able.

A lot of the people who are posting on there are on the street or imminently facing homelessness and in many cases have been turned away from or faced harassment, violence, and sexual assault in shelters and this page is their last resort.

Thanks everyone who reads this and can help

http://www.transhousingnetwork.com

Anonymous asked:
while labels can be helpful at first, shouldnt we teach that they are tools, not destinations?

What exactly do you think I’m doing then?

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Are we ever going to get to a point where we don't need these labels anymore? it seems like it would be quite liberating at that point. I would consider myself non binary but as of recent I don't use the label anymore, I just kinda identify with myself.

That’s good and I’m happy for you, but there are a lot of people who really enjoy labels and/or find them necessary or helpful.

-Nick

Hi! I'm doing a paper for my Gender Studies class and I'd like to know more about non-binary people. As I understand it, non-binary theory claims that gender is a construct, and "male" and "female" traditional binary roles are made up by society, and humans as individuals are much more than that. Nobody needs to experience sexual dysphoria to be trans, but doesn't that diminish their struggle in society? thank you

Hi. Read the glossary, then read the rest of this blog.

—Beck

If you are in a relationship with a nonbinary person how do you refer to them. (Like how you would call someone their boyfriend/girlfriend) thank you.

However that person wants to be referred to as. It varies person by person. I recommend actually talking to the nonbinary people you’re involved with. 

—Beck

Help my partners not be homeless!

If you reblog this post please tag it “#rowan don’t look” 

———————————————————————————————————

My partner and co-mod Nick and my partner Rowan are in a tough  financial spot, and need $500 by midnight tomorrow to avoid being homeless. 

Please please help if you can, this is an emergency. 

The donate button [link] on this blog goes directly to them. Please donate if you can, and signal boost.

—Beck

Help!

askanonbinary:

askanonbinary:

dickprincess:

dickprincess:

First things first, if you reblog this, please tag it as “#Rowan don’t look”; he’s been really stressed out since we arrived and I’d rather not cause him any more turmoil over the crisis we’re finding ourselves in.

———-

So remember a month back when people helped me out with moving expenses because I had lost my job suddenly?

Well, I got a huge response with that and because of that was able to pay over half of what Rowan and I needed to move up here. Our housemates have been very generous and helpful with everything thus far and have given us a lot of resources with getting settled in the area, but, some things have come up, and I regrettably have to ask for some help again.

I just had a house meeting with the other three renters and they informed me that due to the rent being due next week Tuesday, and because of the lack of funds they collectively have as being working 20-somethings in a kind of expensive town, they wouldn’t be able to make the full rent without the fourth person being able to give their share. Due to this, in order to make sure that they can continue living here, they need to put the room back on the market in case we’re not able to pay for our room.This isn’t something they wanted to do (evidenced by how much they did to make our moving in here possible), but it’s what’s happening.

This could (but probably won’t) turn into a really bad situation very quickly, and I’m making this post ONLY because I would like not to be homeless for a second time in my life. I’m not going to start work until a few days from now, and my savings are depleted to less than $100 after all the things I needed to pay for in moving up here/tying up loose ends in Norfolk.

We need in total $500 USD by Sunday September 30th in order to pay off October’s rent, and by that time I’ll be working enough to support all of the living expenses we need, but, before then I’m reaching out people here, my family, my friends, and scraping together anything and everything I can. I didn’t manage to sell a lot of what i had in Norfolk before I left, but I’m going to try to do so with a number of the things I brought up here with me to try and pad out anything I can get.

I’m really wary of crisis/donation posts and I hate every single one I’ve ever had to make, but we moved in Saturday morning, and if this doesn’t happen we’re going to have to be gone by the week after next, the latest. I don’t want to be in that situation and I really really really don’t want Rowan to be in that situation again, so for the second time in a couple weeks I really need whatever help is available. If everyone who follows me gave a dollar we’d actually come out of this in the black, so that’s something to keep in mind.

Thanks.

correction: Sunday is the 28th, not the 30th

This is Nick, one of your AANB mods. Rowan and I are in a bad situation and need some help to pay rent.

Please consider donating via the button on my main blog, which is the source for this post. If everyone following us gives a single dollar, we’ll be able to make above and beyond our expenses.

Nick and Rowan still need help! Please please please reblog this and help my partners not be homeless

—Beck

I will be reblogging this periodically to keep it at the top of the page. Please reblog. Donations to the AANB donate link go directly to Nick and Rowan.

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
are you planning on holding any more events like that nonbinary positivity Friday you had a while ago?

Eventually yes, but it’s going to have to wait until my life settles down a bit. 

This blog is and forever will be something I do in my spare time, when my life & mental illnesses allow. I will do my best to keep answering questions, but everything else gets done when I (or Nick) have the time and spoons. 

I appreciate everyone’s patience.

—Beck 

Anonymous asked:
um okay i really don't want to offend anyone, but if i do, i'm sorry. i just want to state my opinion and understand why i'm right/wrong. i really can't understand what non binary genders are and why they exist. (part 1)

This was a 4 part message. I’m deleting the other 3 parts without publishing them (they were the usual b.s., invalidating my identity, telling me I don’t exist, etc). 

 You do not have to understand. I do not have to justify the whys and hows of my existence to you.

You just have to know that 1) we exist and 2) we deserve respect and dignity. 

Boom. End of story.  

That wasn’t so hard now was it?

—Beck

Help!

askanonbinary:

dickprincess:

dickprincess:

First things first, if you reblog this, please tag it as “#Rowan don’t look”; he’s been really stressed out since we arrived and I’d rather not cause him any more turmoil over the crisis we’re finding ourselves in.

———-

So remember a month back when people helped me out with moving expenses because I had lost my job suddenly?

Well, I got a huge response with that and because of that was able to pay over half of what Rowan and I needed to move up here. Our housemates have been very generous and helpful with everything thus far and have given us a lot of resources with getting settled in the area, but, some things have come up, and I regrettably have to ask for some help again.

I just had a house meeting with the other three renters and they informed me that due to the rent being due next week Tuesday, and because of the lack of funds they collectively have as being working 20-somethings in a kind of expensive town, they wouldn’t be able to make the full rent without the fourth person being able to give their share. Due to this, in order to make sure that they can continue living here, they need to put the room back on the market in case we’re not able to pay for our room.This isn’t something they wanted to do (evidenced by how much they did to make our moving in here possible), but it’s what’s happening.

This could (but probably won’t) turn into a really bad situation very quickly, and I’m making this post ONLY because I would like not to be homeless for a second time in my life. I’m not going to start work until a few days from now, and my savings are depleted to less than $100 after all the things I needed to pay for in moving up here/tying up loose ends in Norfolk.

We need in total $500 USD by Sunday September 30th in order to pay off October’s rent, and by that time I’ll be working enough to support all of the living expenses we need, but, before then I’m reaching out people here, my family, my friends, and scraping together anything and everything I can. I didn’t manage to sell a lot of what i had in Norfolk before I left, but I’m going to try to do so with a number of the things I brought up here with me to try and pad out anything I can get.

I’m really wary of crisis/donation posts and I hate every single one I’ve ever had to make, but we moved in Saturday morning, and if this doesn’t happen we’re going to have to be gone by the week after next, the latest. I don’t want to be in that situation and I really really really don’t want Rowan to be in that situation again, so for the second time in a couple weeks I really need whatever help is available. If everyone who follows me gave a dollar we’d actually come out of this in the black, so that’s something to keep in mind.

Thanks.

correction: Sunday is the 28th, not the 30th

This is Nick, one of your AANB mods. Rowan and I are in a bad situation and need some help to pay rent.

Please consider donating via the button on my main blog, which is the source for this post. If everyone following us gives a single dollar, we’ll be able to make above and beyond our expenses.

Nick and Rowan still need help! Please please please reblog this and help my partners not be homeless

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Is it possible to be transgender and non binary

Yes. I am both of these things. 

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
can a person solely identify as androgyne?

Absolutely

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Do you have any demon pronouns?

Not that I’m aware of, but you’re welcome to make some and submit them

—Beck

update

Rowan and I was just over halfway to what we need, after donations and some freelance work I did last night. Unfortunately, we only have until midnight on Sunday, and in that time still need to accrue $230 before then.

Donation posts really rely on momentum, which is awful, but true, so please, please keep reblogging the previous donation post! The AANB donation button is now temporarily linked to my (Nick’s) paypal.

I’m going to do a lot of calling and work today to try and get more money for rent, but we still  need as much help as possible. Please, keep reblogging, and again, if everyone who follows us gave just a dollar, we’d be set for this month’s rent and have the space to start putting away cash for the next several.

Help!

askanonbinary:

dickprincess:

dickprincess:

First things first, if you reblog this, please tag it as “#Rowan don’t look”; he’s been really stressed out since we arrived and I’d rather not cause him any more turmoil over the crisis we’re finding ourselves in.

———-

So remember a month back when people helped me out with moving expenses because I had lost my job suddenly?

Well, I got a huge response with that and because of that was able to pay over half of what Rowan and I needed to move up here. Our housemates have been very generous and helpful with everything thus far and have given us a lot of resources with getting settled in the area, but, some things have come up, and I regrettably have to ask for some help again.

I just had a house meeting with the other three renters and they informed me that due to the rent being due next week Tuesday, and because of the lack of funds they collectively have as being working 20-somethings in a kind of expensive town, they wouldn’t be able to make the full rent without the fourth person being able to give their share. Due to this, in order to make sure that they can continue living here, they need to put the room back on the market in case we’re not able to pay for our room.This isn’t something they wanted to do (evidenced by how much they did to make our moving in here possible), but it’s what’s happening.

This could (but probably won’t) turn into a really bad situation very quickly, and I’m making this post ONLY because I would like not to be homeless for a second time in my life. I’m not going to start work until a few days from now, and my savings are depleted to less than $100 after all the things I needed to pay for in moving up here/tying up loose ends in Norfolk.

We need in total $500 USD by Sunday September 30th in order to pay off October’s rent, and by that time I’ll be working enough to support all of the living expenses we need, but, before then I’m reaching out people here, my family, my friends, and scraping together anything and everything I can. I didn’t manage to sell a lot of what i had in Norfolk before I left, but I’m going to try to do so with a number of the things I brought up here with me to try and pad out anything I can get.

I’m really wary of crisis/donation posts and I hate every single one I’ve ever had to make, but we moved in Saturday morning, and if this doesn’t happen we’re going to have to be gone by the week after next, the latest. I don’t want to be in that situation and I really really really don’t want Rowan to be in that situation again, so for the second time in a couple weeks I really need whatever help is available. If everyone who follows me gave a dollar we’d actually come out of this in the black, so that’s something to keep in mind.

Thanks.

correction: Sunday is the 28th, not the 30th

This is Nick, one of your AANB mods. Rowan and I are in a bad situation and need some help to pay rent.

Please consider donating via the button on my main blog, which is the source for this post. If everyone following us gives a single dollar, we’ll be able to make above and beyond our expenses.