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Anonymous asked:
"I look at people and I have a general idea of what sex they are" people like that are why i have really bad dysphoria and social anxiety and why i can't go out in public without feeling like everyone is staring at me and assigning me a gender i hate, thanks a lot asshole

Word

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Honestly, I read through some of your answers and you are a little harsh on people. Especially the cis girl. I'm trans. I look at people and I have a general idea of what sex they are, but I know that everyone is different. People look at me and assume I'm a certain gender and sex but that doesn't bother me because I don't go out of my way to say other wise. And calling everyone one "them" or "they" is silly. If the person tells you to use a certain pronoun, respect that. It's that simple.

Wow you’re also really gross please never contact me again

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
what's your policy on long asks? if something won't fit in the ask box in one go, should we send it as multiple parts or just submit it?

Please send it in multiple parts because submits are difficult to handle on mobile

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Hi! I'm a cis girl, but I really want to learn about non binary people, in order to be respectful and not trigger anybody and be a decent human being with everyone. My question is: how can I avoid to misgender a person I don't know? I mean, I can know their "sex" by looking at them, but not their gender, and I understand the fact a person wears a dress doesn't make them a girl. So, how can I know it? If anything in my question was offensive, I'm sorry, it was not my intention. Thanks! ♥♥

No actually you cannot tell the assigned sex of someone by looking at them, and it is weird and creepy that you judge people at a glance for what you think is in their pants, so stop it.

You can use “they” until you know their pronouns.

—Beck

To the anon asking for information so as not to hurt their child

I will get to you, I want to provide a thorough response, excellent question, you’re a good egg

Anonymous asked:
Wait, this is run by Beck?

Yes.

-Nick

Anonymous asked:
Non-binary is just another trendy fad. You'll have grown out of it within 4 years

This Just In, Being Nonbinary Is Trendy And Stylish, Choose Your Pronouns Today

—Beck

But actually do because being nonbinary is one of the best things to be

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There always seems to be an abundance of people in need of links as to why the asterisk after trans is transmisogynistic or just flat out unnecessary so I browsed Google for a while and found some good explanations about why we should stop using the…

Anonymous asked:
Too bad your high school education wasn't meta.

That doesn’t make any sense friend

Care to try again

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
"I am very poe’d out right now" Yeah, I couldn't tell if your blog was satire or not myself!

Woah there friend we may be getting too meta

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
As the International Chairman of Every College, I'm 100% sure your psych degree is a load of bunk.

I am very poe’d out right now

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
Have you thought about having affiliates? So people can easily access other nonbinary blogs as well?

Yes, and I have conclusively determined the following

1) I don’t have the time nor energy to vet other blogs or get to know the moderators

2) I don’t trust other people not to be fuckheads

—Beck

Anonymous asked:
how are pronouns =/= transness? could you elaborate?

Some trans people elect to use the pronouns they were assigned at birth, and there are some cis people I’ve encountered who use ‘they/them’ or ‘ze/hir’ pronouns as well. [They don’t typically remain cis for much longer, though]

-Nick

Do you think that, as a DMAB person, if I find myself constantly thinking of myself with my given male pronouns that would be a sign that I am cis and not trans in any way?

No, not at all. Pronouns =/= transness. You can use whatever pronouns you’re comfortable with while still rejecting your birth assignment.

-Nick

Anonymous asked:
Is it wrong of me to want a Vaginoplasty, without a Penectomy?

That’s perfectly okay friend. You get to do what you want with your body

—Beck

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